If you haven't seen the movie "P.S. I love you" ... you may not want to read this. Not that it is particularly suspenseful, but you know what I mean.
So the jist of the movie is that a young woman's husband has died from a brain tumor - but he has left letters to be delivered to her. The letters have instructions for her ... and they all end in "PS: I love you." At first it seems like the letters are just making her cling to him more ... but slowly throughout the movie you see that his instructions are pushing her to grow and to be herself again.
While it is a very romantic notion ... what really struck me is that we've had someone do just that. God is with us, but not in the flesh. He has left us love letters and instrucitons - the Bible. He reminds us He loves us ... and gives us instructions that will lead us to His best for us. Do you often stop and think of the Bible as a love letter? As part of "the church" we are His bride - why shouldn't it be? Jesus even tells us that if we are acting in love, we will be holding the other commandments. The theme throughout the Bible is God's love - and what it means for us.
At one point towards the end of the movie, Kathy Bates said that we're all alone - but if we're all alone, then we're all together in that. Ugh. The thought was just depressing. We don't all operate in islands of our own emotions! How the character could say that while clinging to her greiving daughter I don't know - she was sharing in her greif and comforting her!
This morning, my verse, my love letter, for the day was Genesis 2:18 - "The Lord God said, 'It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.'"
God basically designed us not to work in a bubble. We need Him, and we need each other. Perhaps part of the problem with marriages today is the Western ideal of independence ... that each of us operates as an island. We make connections, and bridges, but they are not considered permanent. The footnote in my Bible (NIV Life Application Study Bible - I need all the help I can get!) describes God's choice in making woman not from dust, but from Adam's flesh and bone as an illustration of marriage bringing two together as one flesh. It goes on to say that "The goal in marriage should be more than friendship; it should be oneness."
Its almost as if, even while I am drawing parallels to God from a movie, He is showing me where the parallel ends. Where society's ideas and ideals are out of line with His own - that I should expect more. How often do you hear someone describe their perfect mate as their "best friend?" And of course I want that to be true - but according to God - the marriage commitment means even more than that. It means you have to stop living on an island or in a bubble.
As my Mom has said after watching movies like this "Don't settle for anything less!"